I love flowers (who doesn’t 🙂 ), specially rose. I am attracted to their beauty, fragrance and color. I was born and brought up in the Mumbai, its very congested city. I always wanted to have garden of my own, but real estate in Mumbai is very expensive. Last year I bought house in US, the previous owner had nice maintained garden with 4 different color\kind of roses. I was happy to get chance to learn and practice gardening.
As I was acquiring gardening skills, i found there is parallel between nurturing mind and garden.
In gardening its difficult to manage nice lawn. There are all kinds of weeds that start growing. I tried different weedicides, but they were not very effective. The best way was – To monitor the lawn very 4 to 5 days and if there are any weeds, remove them immediately from roots. My front and back yard are small so it does not take much time to inspect the lawn.
If you consider mind as garden. The negative thoughts are weeds in this case. When negative thoughts come to mind, the best thing is to remove them from the root. We should monitor our thought process and remove the negative thought as soon as they appear. If this is not done, they will become rampant and out of control like weeds.
There was 2 x 2 feet patch on the lawn which did not have any grass on it. I observed that weeds in this area grew more faster then any other place in my lawn. I was able to find the reason for this on the internet. The soil has nutrients in it, these nutrient can be lost because of sun rays. So to protect its surface from sun, soil with no lawn on it, prompts the growth of weeds. This is symbiotic behavior.
The mind is similar to soil. It wants to keep itself occupied with some thought or work. If there is not positive thoughts (lawn) it fill it up with useless or negative thoughts (weeds). There is saying “An idle mind is the devil’s workshop”. So make sure we keep your self occupied with positive thoughts\ideas. I have some suggestions
- Maintain todo list. Whenever you find yourself free do the next item on do to list.
- Whenever you done with your work, see if your spouse needs help. Help him or her out.
- If done with 1 and 2, see if you can volunteer in your community.
This item will not only keep your mind occupied but also increase your self esteem.
As mentioned early the weeds is big problem. We do not plant weeds, they just grow without invitation. If we like to have something beautiful and productive like vegetable or flower bed, we need work hard for it. We need to prepare the soil first, plant the seeds. Once seed matures to plant, we need to protect it from pests, rodents etc. We need to fertilize the soil on regular basis.
Same is case with mind. We do not need to plant negative thought they appear from nowhere like weeds. But we need to have positive thought, we need to plant it. We need to protect it from negativity of surrounding. Nurture it so that positive thought can grow into productive output. In short it takes lot of work. The result will be some fragrant rose or tasty fruits.